Вот я - сознательная домохозяйка. Вернее, домохохяйка я не очень сознательная. Правильнее сказать: я осознанная домохозяйка. В моем окружении много таких. Тех, которым муж после свадьбы сказал: "Семью обеспечиваю я.", и они с этим благодарно согласились. Все, как в старые-добрые: Он - добытчик. Она - хранительница домашнего очага. Только вот применима ли эта модель в сегодняшнем мире? Вернее, можно ли избежать осуждающих взглядов родственников-знакомых, избрав эту роль? Мне, если честно, достаточно трудно отвечать работающим людям, к примеру, бывшим одноклассницам на вопрос "Чем занимаешься?". Пока у меня есть честная "отмазка" - маленький ребенок. А потом что? :)
Но это так, чисто мои комплексы, ведь мне самой часто неудобно не работать. Ни с того ни с сего просыпается желание самореализации, будь она неладна! :) И кто ее придумал? Феминистки же, да? Или коммунисты? В общем, неважно. Главное, что она не дает спокойно жить, растить детей и наслаждаться миллионам женщин. Вот столетии так в 18-м, женщины преспокойненько занимались своими чисто женскими обязанностями, и были, наверняка, счастливы. Вернее, им не с чем было сравнивать, а это - уже счастье. Уверена, большинство из ныне работающих женщин охотно поменяли бы свою работу на дом, сотрудников - на семью, а собственноручно заработанные деньги - на удовольствие от full-time общения с детьми.
Как-то писала эссе на эту тему, но оно на английском.
Many years ago, when the world hadn’t changed yet and no one heard about feminism, little girls were brought up with the idea of a good marriage in their future. All that women did was keeping a house clean, husband fed and children under control. Were they so much unhappy with that?
Of course, at that time women even couldn’t dream of such thing as receiving education, voting, having some non-women work and even wearing trousers. But was it that wrong? The things were in their natural order: men were responsible for bread on the table; they voted to elect people they considered to be right, and they did everything to protect their families from poverty and disasters.
And a woman was respected. She was an innocent creature, a wife, a mother. If she showed her wrist it was the greatest happiness for her cavalier. Men died in duels if there was a hint of insult to their lady.
In our reality this seams unbelievable. Today, after a long and fruitful struggle with men, women finally got their rights, but the duties come hand-in-hand with them.
Feminism took women’s charm, tenderness and mysteriousness and replaced it with male grip, undisguised nakedness and sometimes, even vulgarity. Men become more and more feminine, and women – masculine respectively. There are no more purely men professions. Women can be seen everywhere: in the uniform of a bodyguard, driving a tractor, and, even, in the outer space. But if to ask them “What would you prefer: to see your child’s first steps or to make some new steps in your career?”, there is no doubt, the choice will be for the first one. Of course, there are ambitious women, who would prefer career to having children, but, fortunately, there are not many of them. Otherwise, the whole future of the mankind would be in danger.
So, the wrong thing that feminism has done to women’s lives is that it made them strong. One can’t imagine more harm to be done. It’s not that they want to be strong, it’s that they must be.
More and more responsibility lies on women’s fragile shoulders: they must earn money, do all the household work, bring up children and, of course, still be a Woman. She should still have a charming smile, manicure, a hairdo and an “I’ve-never-touched-anything-heavier-than-a lipstick” look.
But, opening a great secret, one should admit that women are extremely tired of all of this. They no more want to be strong, they no more want to compete with men. They are tired of their hard-won rights. They are tired of having to earn money, they consider themselves bad mothers as their children don’t get enough attention. And often they can’t let themselves have children till they build their career, but then it’s too late. How many happy families and childhoods have been sacrificed?
Consequently, our time can be called post-feminism time. Everything should return to its natural order. Women don’t want this equality any more. Now one shouldn’t be Mel Gibson to answer the long-living question “What do women want?”. They want to show their weakness and not to be blamed for it. They want men to offer them hands, to open the doors for them. They want to receive compliments and flowers unexpectedly. And to give birth to children, knowing that there is a man who would ensure comfortable life to their family. They want a wall to live behind and a shoulder to lean on. So, who wears trousers in your family?
Posted on February 29, 2016